Conflict is an inevitable part of living in community. “Community” exists anywhere and anytime two entities are in contact. YOU (eternal) can be in conflict with you (temporary).
At any rate, regular study in conflict resolution is essential for keeping people connected..
In most of my community experiences, a single conflict led to permanent grudges held. This is an immature outlook on life.
The exact mode of conflict resolution will change based on the input of members.
Currently, we use non-violent communication as taught by Marshall Rosenberg. The Thursday communication lab initially focuses on this.
The steps in conflict resolution are:
- attempt to resolve the conflict with the other party. Both parties should have the attitude of reconciliation as opposed to finger-pointing or arguing
- Involve the other party in any communication you have about the issue. I.e. dont talk behind the back of the person because it will create separation. Of course, if you feel threatened, then do what is necessary to stay safe.
Decision Making
Tangential to conflict resolution is decision-making. The reason you make decisions is because you think something is wrong. The reason you have conflicts is because you think someone/something is wrong?
The N-Street Consensus Method appears to be an effective way to handle the proposal/decision-making process.
Deal Breakers
Inspired by the article, here are a list of deal breakers for Fantasy Island:
- Addiction
- Cigarette smoking
- Suicide attempt or mental breakdown in last 6 months
- Intolerant attitude
- Possession of firearms.